Addressing a Couple
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Married, she uses her husband’s name socially
Mr. and Mrs. Charles Stevens
NOTE: Traditionally, a woman’s name preceded a man’s on an envelope address, and his first and surname were not separated (Jane and Charles Stevens). Nowadays, the order of the names—whether his name or hers comes first—does not matter and either way is acceptable. The exception is when one member of the couple ‘outranks’ the other—the one with the higher rank is always listed first.
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Married, she prefers Ms.
Mr. Charles Stevens and Ms. Jane Stevens
Ms. Jane Stevens and Mr. Charles Stevens
*Do not link Ms. to the husband’s name: Mr. and Ms. John Kelly is incorrect
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Married, informal address
Jane and Charles Stevens
Charles and Jane Stevens
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Married, she uses maiden name
Mr. Charles Stevens and Ms. Jane Stevens
Ms. Jane Stevens and Mr. Charles Stevens
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If you can’t fit the names on one line:
Mr. Charles Stevens
and Ms. Jane Stevens
*Note the indent, either name may be used first
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Unmarried, living together
Mr. Charles Stevens & Ms. Jane Stevens
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A woman who outranks her husband: elected office, military rank
The Honorable Jane Stevens and Mr. Charles Stevens
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If you can’t fit both names on one line:
The Honorable Jane Stevens
and Mr. Charles Stevens
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A woman who outranks her husband: professional or educational degree
Dr. Jane Stevens and Mr. Charles Stevens
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Both are doctors (PhD or medical) and use the same last name
The Doctors Stevens (omit first names)
Drs. Jane and Charles Stevens / Drs. Charles and Jane Stevens
Dr. Charles Stevens and Dr. Jane Stevens / Dr. Jane Stevens and Dr. Charles Stevens
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Both are doctors (PhD or medical), she uses her maiden name
Dr. Jane Johnson and Dr. Charles Stevens
Dr. Charles Stevens and Dr. Jane Johnson
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Business Woman
Ms. is the default form of address, unless you know positively that a woman wishes to be addressed as Mrs.
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Professional designations—use only for business
Jane Kelly, CPA
*Note: Do not use Ms. or Mr. if using a professional designation.
Socially, drop the professional designation and use Mr., Ms., or Mrs., Ms. Jane Stevens
*The information regarding etiquette was from Emily Post.